Do you get up most of your days feeling content, loved, and passionate about your life and the difference you’re making? Do you feel successful and happy in your everyday connections, around your family members, work environment, or social circles? Or is there something you are missing? Is it love, attention, respect, care, a sense of belonging, collaboration, or inspiration? Well, we all know life isn’t perfect. But we also know there has never been a better time than today to make more conscious choices. Here are some tips.
What You Truly Desire from Others
Is it love, attention, or care? All of your desires stem from your need for love, therefore you could think I need love, which is not truly a need for love. All the earlier mentioned aspects that you desire for your fulfillment, are rather energy than love. Normally, you crave attention, acknowledgment, encouragement, support, and praise from others. We all do. Only, it is worth clarifying that these are not love. Only our minds tend to call these attributes love.
Give and Take
You might sometimes ask yourself if you should feel bad because you are so needy? Is it normal that you have all these needs or are you some weirdo in the crowds of women, you might think? Do other women also have so many desires? Is it healthy at all? I can assure you most women have such desires and it is completely normal. Why? Because we all want to survive, what’s more, to live our best lives.
So, these needs of yours are not only important, but necessary, and legit. Then, you might ask yourself, is it an issue that you want to get so many things from others? Not at all! Chances are, if you keep questioning yourself about this, you couldn’t get your needs met on the other end of the spectrum. Why is it important to receive such energies? Because it contributes to your healthy sense of well-being, so you feel valuable, fulfilled, and have a purpose in life.
When You Want to Receive
As long as you are alive, not fighting for your life surviving, or you aren’t in a deep coma, you will have such desires. They are part of everyone’s ego, those parts that help us create a better life for ourselves. So, you shouldn’t try to kill off your wishes… Chances are, you cannot get rid of them or silence them anyway! And you don’t have to give up on your wants! When you crave receiving, it is when your egocentric desire takes over.
You shouldn’t mistake this with love. You are loving when you are content from within, you are enjoying your life and making the most of it. It is apparent from the way you are living in line with your desires, abilities, and you believe in your strengths and power, but you are not afraid of your fears either. This is when you can truly channel your creative powers, and the fruits of your soul, therefore you flow effortlessly with life, love, and yourself.
Your State of Natural Flow
When you are in flow, others want to get more of you and connect with you because they can sense power, faith, confidence in you. These are all receptive energies to which others love to connect. When you are loving and happy, you project positive energies such as acceptance, lightness, humor, joy, and wellbeing to others. You are giving these positive vibes away without you even recognizing it. Still, others love being around you and feeling those vibes.
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When you wish to receive, on the other hand, this flow works from the opposite direction, you wish to receive from outside of yourself, which is driven from your mind. This ensures harmony within you on a physical level, your heart, organs, and body are all aligned in a state of flow. Meanwhile, your ego is also asking for energy, so that you can keep a healthy balance of energy flow. You can only connect healthily if the giving and taking are in a natural balance.
Do You Need to Fight for Others’ Approval?
Do you have to fight for the love and approval of others? And can you get great results doing so? NO, never really. Why? Because everyone is unique, worthy, important, and lovable. People only want to fight for someone’s approval until they don’t come to this realization. When you understand all the aspects of yourself that can be loved, you also understand that you don’t need fighting anymore.
When you allow yourself the state of flow in a loving way, as mentioned above, then, it will become very easy to love you in return. You don’t have to constantly prove yourself, overperform, search for approval, or show that you are strong, driven by your fears! Instead, you should just simply be authentic to yourself and take responsibility for who you are. When you do so, you can simply enjoy yourself, and enjoy your life!
How to Let Go of Expectations
Here are a few hints on how you could take it easy, let go of your high expectations, and enjoy your life a bit more. You should always start with allowing yourself to become more vulnerable. Then, if you haven’t yet, you should become your best friend by loving, encouraging and celebrating yourself after your achievements! We can really ignore these so much!! Acknowledge your strengths and abilities, and rely on them fully!
Have they served you well? If so, you should give them some credit!! Be grateful for your life and your achievements, realize your efforts, values, and all the difficulties you have been amazingly coping with! Chances are, if you are still alive, you are pretty strong, and are a valuable person! So, instead of disapproving of yourself, and judging yourself, you should give the most loving and supportive advice you would to your best friend in need!
